Shaunti Feldhahn, author of The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and The Good News About Marriage , was featured in a Focus on the Family broadcast titled ‘Uncovering the Secrets to A Happy Marriage I-II‘. The two-part broadcast, airing on June 23rd and 24th, covers the tips and tricks in Feldhahn’s book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference.
In the interview, Feldhahn explains, Its so easy for us to say, well, our goal shouldn’t be to be happy, it should be to be holy The problem with that is we get to the idea that theyre mutually exclusive. One of the main things couples can do to be happy, according to Feldhahn’s findings, is to believe the best of your spouses intentions when youre hurt. Happy couples, she claims, have learned how to talk themselves out of being upset and mad, instead choosing a more positive perspective.
It’s so easy to focus on our problems to try and fix them but that means youre only focusing on the problems, Feldhahn explains. Lets look at what the happy marriages have to teach us and celebrate that and say its possible.