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About How We Love Our Kids

One Small Change in How You Love
One Big Change in your Kids

Having problems with your kids?  What if you are the problem and you just can’t see it?  How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love. It’s the only book specifically for parents that reveals the unseen forces that shape every interaction with your kids.   


   • Identify which of the five love styles you have.
   • Discover the surprising dynamics that shape your parenting.
   • Get rid of your “buttons” so your kids can’t push them.
   • Create a close connection with your kids that will last a lifetime.
   • Learn the seven gifts every child needs.
Based on years of research in the area of attachment and bonding,  How We Love Our Kids shows parents how to overcome the predictable challenges that arise out of the five love styles and helps parents cultivate a secure, deep connection with a child of any age.  Retool your reactions and refocus on how you love.  Start today. Watch your kids flourish and thrive as they receive what was missing in your love.
 
With four self-assessments and powerful application tools to use with children of all ages.

Praise

Praise for How We Love Our Kids

“Milan and Kay provide us with the tools of self-awareness which can enable us to consciously examine the love styles of the past and become conscious of the stored feelings and emotions that we carry forward into parenting. This book will now be one of my primary reading recommendations.”
Michael W. Shannon, MD

“Another home run for Milan and Kay Yerkovich!”
— Sherrie Eldridge, speaker and author of Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed

“After reading this book, our first thoughts were, Every parent needs to read this book—regardless of the ages of their children, and, Reading this book could not only protect children from the pains of growing up but also heal the parents’ hearts. This book offers insightful, practical ways of understanding children and parenting. We recommend it.”
—Roger and Becky Tirabassi, authors of Let Love Change Your Life

“This book is a true gift to parents who yearn to understand and communicate with their children, thus bringing about healing and restoration. Milan and Kay remind us that God is our perfect model for parenting. This book has touched my life, and I know it will touch yours too.”
—Elizabeth John, MD

“Milan and Kay provide us an entirely new way of looking at parenting. Rather than focusing solely on the how-tos of parenting, they help us explore the powerful forces of our own upbringings on how we parent and provide a path to change those forces for good in the lives of our children. As a parent educator for over twenty-five years, I see this book as the resource we’ve been missing!”
—Laura Taggart, licensed marriage and family therapist

“Finally! A treatment of parenting that acknowledges the eight-hundred pound gorilla in the room: parents working out their personal issues on their children. If you want to transform your child’s life, then let Milan and Kay gently, firmly, and skillfully guide you on this amazing journey of personal change.”
—Kenny Luck, author of Soar, Fight, and Dream

“Imagine decreasing the drama in your home by simply learning how to comfort one another. How We Love Our Kids unfolds five distinct love styles in parenting—their traits, strengths, and pitfalls. The real-life stories allow us to see ourselves and how we naturally express ourselves to our children. Whatever blend of love styles is under your roof, Milan and Kay will show you the direct route to building deeper love, intimacy, and connection.”
—Sheri Denham, PhD, MFT, and co-host of New Life Live

“If you’ve ever struggled with being a good enough parent, ever been triggered by your child’s behavior in ways you’d be too embarrassed to recount, or ever compensated with your child to override your guilt, then you won’t want to miss How We Love Our Kids!”
— Jill Hubbard, PhD, co-host of New Life Live and author of The Secrets Women Keep and The Secrets Young Women Keep

“Milan and Kay have given us great insights into how our own attachment issues affect our parenting styles. Every parent needs to read this book, regardless of the ages of their kids.”
—David Stoop, PhD, author of Just Us and Forgiving the Unforgivable

About Milan Yerkovich

Milan and Kay Yerkovich are parents of four grown childrenMilan is a pastoral counselor and co-host of the radio show, New Life Live! with Stephen Arterburn. Milan has a master’s degree in biblical studies and is the founder of Relationship 180, a ministry that helps leaders build healthy relationships. Kay has a master’s in counseling and has specialized in successful bonding between couples, parents, and children for 20 years. Their website, where they provide resources in these areas, is www.howwelove.com. When they aren’t traveling to speak, the Yerkovichs enjoy their four grandchildren.

About Kay Yerkovich

Milan and Kay Yerkovich are parents of four grown childrenMilan is a pastoral counselor and co-host of the radio show, New Life Live! with Stephen Arterburn. Milan has a master’s degree in biblical studies and is the founder of Relationship 180, a ministry that helps leaders build healthy relationships. Kay has a master’s in counseling and has specialized in successful bonding between couples, parents, and children for 20 years. Their website, where they provide resources in these areas, is www.howwelove.com. When they aren’t traveling to speak, the Yerkovichs enjoy their four grandchildren.

Product Details

304 pages | Published by WaterBrook

On Sale Date: Mar 15, 2011

Trim Size: 5-3/16 x 8

Carton Quantity: 24

Sneak Peek

One Small Change in How You Love

One Big Change in your Kids

 Click here to download chapter one of How We Love Our Kids.

Learn your love style and discover the unseen forces that shape every interaction with your kids.  Change your kids by changing how you love.

Click here to download chapter one of How We Love Our Kids.

By Leilani Anderson

When my first son was born I had a ton of ideas of how I was going to parent him.  I made a mental list all the years of living with my parents of what not to do.  We all did.  We would stomp away from our parents saying when I have kids I will let them... fill in the blank!  But I was amazed at how quickly that list went out the door.  I was really excited to open this book and find a new way to handle my children.  Once I read I noticed how...

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By Julia Gibson

I don't know which was more eye opening - identifying what type of child I am or identifying what types of children I have. It was like everything clicked and made sense... why I act the way I do and why my kids act the way they do. It is amazing to learn how just tweaking the way you say something to your children causes a completely different - and welcome - response. Great book. You should read this for your children.

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By Amanda Turner

"How We Love Our Kids" written by Milan & Kay Yerkovich teaches us as parents, how we should parent our children, based on personalities. There are 5 love styles to distinguish from, that show us how we parent, based on the way we grew up and how that has shaped us. Those love styles are: The Avoider The Pleaser The Controller The Vacillator The Victim In reading How We Love Our Kids, you will be able to identify...

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By Sheyenne Wilson

I was so excited to receive "How We Love Our Kids" in the mail. Its my first parenting book review, and I was eager to dive in. This book by Milan and Kay Yerkovich did not disappoint! The premise of the book is that it explores 5 Love Styles of parenting. I've been through Gary Smalley's 5 Love Languages and have found those to be extremely helpful in my marriage, so I was interested in applying the same principle to parenting. Gia is now...

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By Jennifer McGrail

How We Love Our Kids: The 5 Love Styles of Parenting is a must-read if you are a parent... whether you are a brand-new parent, or have been a parent for decades. In a refreshing change of pace from far too many parenting books today, it takes the focus off what the kids may be doing "wrong", and puts the responsibility for good parenting on the shoulders of the parents, exactly where it belongs. Milan and Kay Yerkovich give us an...

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