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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The author of Get Out of Your Head offers practical solutions for creating true community, the kind that’s crucial to our mental and spiritual health.

“My dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the right people so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way
 
In a world that’s both more connected and more isolating than ever before, we’re often tempted to do life alone, whether because we’re so busy or because relationships feel risky and hard. But science confirms that consistent, meaningful connection with others has a powerful impact on our well-being. We are meant to live known and loved. But so many are hiding behind emotional walls that we’re experiencing an epidemic of loneliness.
 
In Find Your People, bestselling author Jennie Allen draws on fascinating insights from science and history, timeless biblical truth, and vulnerable stories from her own life to help you:

• overcome the barriers to making new friends and learn to initiate with easy-to-follow steps
• find simple ways to press through awkward to get to authentic in conversations
• understand how conflict can strengthen relationships rather than destroy them
• identify the type of friend you are and the types of friends you need
• learn the five practical ingredients you need to have the type of friends you’ve always longed for
 
You were created to play, engage, adventure, and explore—with others. In Find Your People, you’ll discover exactly how to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community. Because while the ache of loneliness is real, it doesn’t have to be your reality.

Praise

“An important, inspiring work about loneliness and the power of connection . . . Allen offers practical solutions to questions like how to find friends, how to make relationships less superficial, what a true community looks like, and how to navigate being ‘dumped’ by a friend.”—Katie Couric Media

“Easy solutions to create true connections, strengthen relationships and curb loneliness. With scientific insights and biblical references, Allen shares ways to identify the type of friend you need, how to have authentic conversations and more. It’s a sweet map to joy and connection.”Woman’s World

“We know we need to do life with other people and have a supportive community around us instead of living in isolation, but we often wonder how when we’ve had friendships fail, we’ve been hurt, or we feel too busy to even make the effort. In Find Your People, my dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the right people so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, #1 New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

“This book is a true reflection of God’s heart for us to experience authentic, vulnerable, and meaningful relationships.”—Sadie Robertson Huff, author, speaker, and founder of Live Original

“I can’t think of a better book or message for our current moment than Find Your People. We are starving for community, meaning, and deeper, more life-giving relationships—and Jennie gives us the road map to actually get there. This book is essential reading for our tired and lonely souls.”—Jefferson Bethke, New York Times bestselling author of Take Back Your Family

“In an age when we’re tempted to believe deep and meaningful friendships are impossible, Find Your People is a timely, practical resource.”—Ruth Chou Simons, Wall Street Journal bestselling author, artist, and founder of gracelaceddotcom

“Deep community is the path to health, joy, success, connection. Find Your People will inspire you, challenge you, and encourage you toward the relationships you need and want.”—Annie F. Downs, New York Times bestselling author of That Sounds Fun

“For this generation Jennie Allen is the vulnerable voice we need, and with Find Your People she has provided a beacon-illuminated map that is as practical as it is inspiring. Read this and find your people. Read this and find the life you have been hungering and thirsting for. Read this and find Jesus.”—Curt Thompson, MD, author of The Soul of Desire and The Soul of Shame

“In Find Your People, Jennie Allen shows us how to build deeper, stronger relationships that point us to Jesus and help us live out our God-given purpose.”—Christine Caine, speaker, author, and founder of Propel Women

About Jennie Allen

Jennie Allen is the founder and visionary of IF:Gathering as well as the New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head, Made for ThisAnything, and Nothing to Prove. A freqent speaker at events such as Catalyst and Q Conference, she is a passionate leader, following God’s call on her life to catalyze a generation to live what they believe. Jennie earned a master’s in biblical studies from Dallas Theological Seminary. She and her husband, Zac, have four children.

Product Details

272 pages | Published by WaterBrook

On Sale Date: Feb 22, 2022

Trim Size: 5-1/2 x 8-1/4

Carton Quantity: 12

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The New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head offers practical solutions for creating true community, the kind that’s crucial to our mental and spiritual health. In a world that’s both more connected and more isolating than ever before, we’re often tempted to do life alone, whether because we’re so busy or because relationships feel risky and hard. But science confirms that consistent, meaningful connection with others has a powerful impact on our well-being. We are meant to live known and loved. But so many are hiding behind emotional walls that we’re experiencing an epidemic of loneliness. In Find Your People, bestselling author Jennie Allen draws on fascinating insights from science and history, timeless biblical truth, and vulnerable stories from her own life to help you: • overcome the barriers to making new friends and learn to initiate with easy-to-follow steps • find simple ways to press through awkward to get to authentic in conversations • understand how conflict can strengthen relationships rather than destroy them • identify the type of friend you are and the types of friends you need • learn the five practical ingredients you need to have the type of friends you’ve always longed for You were created to play, engage, adventure, and explore—with others. In Find Your People, you’ll discover exactly how to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community. Because while the ache of loneliness is real, it doesn’t have to be your reality.

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FIND YOUR PEOPLE
By New York Times bestselling author Jennie Allen
A WaterBrook Hardcover | On Sale 2/22/22

“We know we need to do life with other people and have a supportive community around us instead of living in isolation, but we often wonder how when we’ve had friendships fail, we’ve been hurt, or we feel too busy to even make the effort. In Find Your People, my dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the right people so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.” —Lysa TerKeurst, #1 New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

“…She is the power source behind a run of bestsellers… February will bring her newest title, a clarion call for creating deep, healthy, joyful relationships with Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World.” —Publishers Weekly
 
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The COVID-19 pandemic has been plastered across our newsfeeds for nearly two years. But the pandemic lurking behind closed doors all along? Loneliness. A 2019 study found that three in five Americans reported being chronically lonely, revealing that long-term social isolation has been an issue since long before the era of social distancing, and it hasn’t gotten any better.
 
Jennie Allen, the breakout New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head (900k sold/38 weeks NYT list) and the founder of IF:Gathering—an organization that reaches a million women a year—says the #1 question she is asked online is, “How do I make friends?” 
 
Her new book, FIND YOUR PEOPLE: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World (WaterBrook; on sale 2/22/22), is a timely and vital resource filled with real solutions for creating true community, the kind that is crucial to our mental and spiritual health. Scientists confirm that consistent, meaningful connection is a major contributor to our well-being, yet so many people hide behind the walls of their homes and hearts, afraid to be vulnerable and transparent.
 
Allen writes, “You’re not alone in feeling alone.” Having made a major move to a new city four years ago, Allen knows firsthand how difficult it can be simply to find new friends, let alone nurture a deep-rooted community. She is also familiar with the vicious cycle of opening up to others, getting hurt in the process, and then isolating herself again. But she writes, “I promise the battle (for friendship) is worth it!”
 
In Find Your People, Allen bravely shares both the messiness and beauty of her own friendships, all the while inspiring readers to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community for themselves. 
 
Possible talking points for interviews include:
- Allen’s research spanning scientific studies, history, the Bible, and various cultures: Unlike modern-day America, 80% of the world’s population still exists in small communities/ villages. The West’s focus on individualism has led to a rise in chronic loneliness.
- Practical steps for making friends and taking superficial friendships to a deeper level: (1) Notice who is already in front of - Which qualities you should look for in potential friends: (1) Availability. Look for people who say yes and show up even when it’s inconvenient or requires vulnerability, (2) Humility. Look for people who are willing to say hard things and receive hard things, and (3) Transparency. Look for people who will say what’s really going on in their lives.
- What compels us to hide behind walls and isolate ourselves. Pain and shame. Vulnerable people get hurt, but your friendships will only be as close as you are vulnerable. Self-protection isn’t worth the cost of continuing to live isolated and sad.
- Allen’s move to a new city and how she built a new community. She didn’t have friends nearby for several months after moving to Dallas, but she wanted people to do everyday life with, so she set out to find five friends within five miles.
- Allen’s panic attack toward the end of writing her book. Ironically, as she was writing a book about finding your people, she felt like she was losing hers. But she decided to fight back against the lie that she was alone, and openly acknowledged to her people that she needed them.
 
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Jennie Allen is the founder and visionary of women’s organization IF:Gathering, the host of the top rated Made for This podcast (17 million downloads) as well as the New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head, which was the #1 bestselling religion title of 2020. Her latest book is Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World. She has appeared on shows such as Hallmark Home & Family, Fox News at Night with Shannon Bream, and been featured in various outlets such as Woman’s World, Brit+Co, Cosmopolitan.com, and Christianity Today. 
 
Allen’s organization IF:Gathering is hosting its 2022 worldwide event March 4-5, 2022, livestreaming from Dallas into thousands of churches, family rooms and dorm rooms. Tickets for the Dallas location sold out in hours. The estimated viewership for 2021’s event exceeded one million women in all 50 states and 144 countries. For more information, visit www.jennieallen.com.

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