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“Altared is a must-read for young Christians hungering for a realistic, biblically rich take on love and marriage in the twenty-first century.”
—Katelyn Beaty, editor, Christianity Today magazine, Her.meneutics

 
Mar•riage-hap•py \mar´-ij-hap´e¯\ adj 1: Having an inordinate preoccupation with marital pursuits, sometimes at the cost of other Christian priorities, commonly seen in evangelicals. 2: A giddiness stemming from all things related to marriage.
 
In the frenzied pursuit of romance, Christians sometimes lose sight of the greatest commandments: to love God and to love others. Distracted by wedding bells and exuberant hopes for a happily-ever-after, Christians often forget the greater vision of Christ’s call to love.
 
What if God is less worked up about marriage than we are?
 
With honesty and insight, Claire and Eli ask us to shift our thinking away from marriage or singleness and toward love and discipleship.
 
Drawing from luminaries like Augustine, the Desert Fathers, and Bonhoeffer, they invite you to join their real-life exploration of love as they convincingly demonstrate why a love for God and for one’s neighbor are to be our top priorities, whether we are single or married.

Praise

Praise for Altared
“A beautifully written, searingly honest, and deeply thoughtful exploration of one of the most important topics there is.”
     — Eric Metaxas, New York Times best-selling author of Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy and Amazing Grace: William Wilberforce and the Heroic Campaign to End Slavery

“Perceptive, personal, and poignantly true, Altared is a must-read for young Christians hungering for a realistic, biblically rich take on love and marriage in the twenty-first century.”
     — Katelyn Beaty, editor, Christianity Today and Her.meneutics blog

“Altared tells us how certain unexamined notions about courtship and marriage (often framed as ‘biblical’) play out among young American evangelicals today. Fresh, funny, perceptive, it is animated above all by wonder at the reality of God’s love.”
     —John Wilson, editor, Books & Culture

“Altared is a wise, wry, questioning, affirmative, sober, and deeply encouraging story—and it does something nearly unique: It asks what our thinking about ‘relationships’ and marriage might look like if it were governed by the biblical account of love. Not just the part about husband and wife, but love, in all its forms. This book is a sweet gift to the Church.”
      — Dr. Alan Jacobs, Clyde S. Kilby professor of English at Wheaton College

“This is the relationship book for a new generation of Christians. Altared gently but forcefully reexamines our Christian love affair with marriage and has the audacity to suggest that real love has little to do with looking for Mr. or Ms. Right.”
     — Dr. Christine Gardner, associate professor, Wheaton College, and author of Making Chastity Sexy: The Rhetoric of Evangelical Abstinence Campaigns

“A much needed wake-up call—a plea for a paradigm shift in the way that we think of love, marriage, and ourselves as followers of Jesus. Eli and Claire’s story needs to be shared.”
      — Dr. Lucy Collins, professor of philosophy, ethics, and aesthetics

“A noble and necessary book, Altared does the hard work of mining the Bible and Christian luminaries like Augustine, Calvin, and Bonhoeffer for insights concerning dating, marriage and love, and then delivers that truth in hearty, yet practical ways. A great gift to the reader.”
     — Vito Aiuto, Welcome Wagon, senior pastor of Resurrection Presbyterian Church

“I was challenged, entertained, taught, and inspired. The way the authors intermix biography and good, honest story telling with the more pedagogical sections is really fun and effective. Basically, it’s dang good.”
      — Jamey Pappas, campus director, Campus Crusade, San Luis Obispo

“Now here’s a strange thing: a well written, immensely thoughtful exploration of the meaning of marriage that challenges our obsession with it without devaluing it. This is a lovely and needed book that I hope everyone reads.”
     — Matthew Lee Anderson, author of Earthen Vessels

“Altared is a timely warning against making an idol out of marriage. In harmony (not eHarmony) with some of the best advice I ever received, this work tells readers how to pursue love, not marriage. Then see what happens. Highly recommended.”
     — Dr. David Naugle, chair and professor of philosophy, Dallas Baptist University, author of Reordered Love, Reordered Lives

“A real winner here. Very well and creatively written!”
     — Dr. Joseph H. Hellerman, professor, Talbot School of Theology, author of When the Church Was a Family: Recapturing Jesus’ Vision for Authentic Christian Community

Product Details

256 pages | Published by WaterBrook

On Sale Date: Sep 18, 2012

Trim Size: 5-3/16 x 8

Carton Quantity: 24

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The True Story of a She, a He, and How They Both Got Too Worked Up About We Click here to download the first chapter of Altared now.

By Jeremy Barker

Have we made too little of love by making too much of marriage? Altared is written in a rather interesting style. It intersperses the story of the relationship of Claire, an aspiring writer, and Eli, a JD student at the University of Chicago Law School, together with some profound reflections on love and marriage and the place that they have come to occupy in present-day Christian circles. The authors in this book wonder if we have made...

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By Starla Gooch

Before reading Altared, I was expecting a book about dating. What I got, however, was a book about discipleship. In the first few chapters, Claire and Eli (who are using pseudonyms), set up the premise of the book by describing an American Christian culture that is "marriage-happy." Marriage-happiness means "1) having an inordinate preoccupation with marital pursuits, sometimes at the cost of other Christian priorities commonly seen in...

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By Erin Rucker

I really enjoyed this book and found it helpful for those who are single. Being a Christian, a lot of sermons are about marriage, how can single people relate to this? Is our ultimate goal to find a husband and raise a family? In the frenzied pursuit of romance, Christians sometimes lose sight of the greatest commandments: to love God and to love others. Distracted by wedding bells and exuberant hopes for a happily-ever-after,...

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By Tara Box

I almost didn't get Altared by Claire and Eli. I wasn't super into the idea of reading another book about marriage. Most of you that know me well enough to know my stance on singleness- it being a true gift and standing with what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7. That being said, I'm super glad I got this book! I really, really like books that are written by two authors. Part of the reason why I enjoyed books like Do Hard Things and Firsthand...

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By Schuyler Peterson

The question raised in the first chapter would fuel a small group discussion for at least six weeks: "Do you think we tend to overemphasize marriage in evangelical culture?" The twenty-four pages that the authors spend in establishing this question are the most riveting I've read in a long time. The story of Claire and Eli's courtship that threads its way thorugh the book is also sweet and insightful. Though the details of their relationship...

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