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About Through a Man's Eyes

What Happens When Women See What Men See?
 
 
You already know that your husband, boyfriend, or son is wired differently from you, but do you know what that really means? It means, among other things, that he’s been given the gift of a unique visual wiring—and the challenges that come with it.
In Through a Man’s Eyes, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross team up to help open our eyes to something we are often blind to. They address questions like:
·         “Why are guys so visual—and what does that mean, anyway?”
·         “How do I help my son navigate this sex-crazed culture?”
·         “How dare someone tell a woman to watch what she wears! Isn’t it a man’s responsibility not to look?”
·         “If he’s tempted by visual images, is there something wrong with him? With me?”
·         “My husband is an honorable guy, so why would he be tempted by porn?”
·         “How can I talk to my husband or son about this? What can I do to support him?”
Through the compassion and candor in this book, we can learn what men have long wished we knew (but didn’t know how to explain)—and see the difference it makes when we do!

Praise

Praise for Through a Man’s Eyes

“I’ve spoken at hundreds of events for women on the topic of marriage, and I can honestly not think of a more needed book. Is it possible (please!) that we can finally have an honest conversation in the church about the visual nature of men without guys being called creeps and women being called frigid? My deepest prayer is that couples will read this book and be able to talk without judgment about this reality for men in our modern society and for their marriages. For many couples, this will be the most important book they read this year—and maybe in their entire relationship.”
—Kathi Lipp, author of The Husband Project, Happy Habits for Couples, and Hot Mamas

 “Women, be brave. This is all the stuff your man has been trying to tell you about how he’s wired, but didn’t know how to say. This is the stuff every mom of a boy needs to know. Whether you have an issue you need to address, are curious about how to support a man or guide a son, or simply need reassurance that the male wiring was intended to be a good thing, this resource will help. This eye-opening book is the go-to resource for a whole new generation of women who care about men.”
—Shannon Ethridge, MA, relationship coach, speaker, and author of many books including the best-selling Every Woman’s Battle series, The Sexually Confident Wife, and The Passion Principles

 “The visual nature of men is an unchangeable reality of life, love, and marriage. And it is an issue few women understand. That lack of knowledge creates a lot of relational problems and barriers to experiencing intimacy. Finally, here is a book that will empower women with the truth about how God made men and how to relate to them with understanding. I love this book and am so thankful to Craig and Shaunti for writing it.”
—Jimmy and Karen Evans, co-hosts of the syndicated the syndicated television program MarriageToday with Jimmy and Karen

“Finally a book to help women understand what even the most honorable man or boy faces today! Many wives personalize a man’s visual nature as evidence that her good-willed husband does not love her. Of course, all he can say is, ‘Well, I do love you’ as he battles to avoid the swimming areas, Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition, or stay accountable with his Internet viewing. And when men have given in to those temptations, and don’t understand the pain they inflict on their wives, their wives don’t know how to handle it. In Through a Man’s Eyes, every wife, mom, counselor, and pastor has the resource we’ve been waiting for.”
—Emerson Eggerichs, bestselling author of Love and Respect

“This is a home-run title on such a desperately needed topic! Through a Man’s Eyes opened my eyes to so many things that men struggle with and served as the springboard for some very helpful and healthy conversations with my husband. I appreciate the courage Shaunti and Craig had to address this subject and the grace with which they did so. Highly recommended for any woman who wants to understand her husband, son, boyfriend, or other men in her life better.”
—Crystal Paine, founder of MoneySavingMom.com and New York Times best-selling author
 “Oh how I wish I’d had this resource thirty-two years ago when I was a new wife. Even though I’ve been married for many years, I learned so much on the pages of this book. If you have a man in your life, you need this resource! Thank you, Shaunti and Craig, for giving women the gift of understanding.”
—Jill Savage, CEO of Hearts at Home and author of No More Perfect Moms

 “Reading this book made me think Craig and Shaunti had somehow installed a hidden camera in my brain! Their insights into the male thought process are incredibly accurate. This book will help women develop a deeper understanding of men, and consequently will create deeper levels of intimacy in their relationships.”
—Dave Willis, founder of StrongerMarriages.org and author of iVow: Secrets to a Stronger Marriage

 “Through a Man’s Eyes picks up where For Women Only left off in giving me (Barb) insight into understanding the visual nature of men. For years we’ve told couples around the world to make sure they bought a copy of the book. This new book is excellent! So compelling we couldn’t put it down! Thank you, Shaunti and Craig, for writing more on these crucial differences between men and women! It gives couples everywhere the capacity to talk about them.” 
—Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg, America’s Family Coaches

 “Any woman (or man!) who reads this book will have a much better understanding of the visual nature of men and boys. As I read this book, words like refreshing, challenging, insightful, grace, practical and helpful kept popping into my head. Shaunti and Craig are two of my favorite authors, researchers, and friends, and I respect and admire both of them. Putting these two people together to write this book makes it not only a stroke of genius but a resource that will bring health and understanding to thousands of women who needed to comprehend how men think and react to visual stimulation. The answers to the questions about the effect of pornography on men and boys could save many a relationship.”
—Jim Burns, PhD, president of HomeWord and author of Teaching Your Kids Healthy Sexuality and The Purity Code (for teens and preteens) 

“Men have long needed their hidden sexual ‘wiring’ exposed along with the challenges it brings. And women have long needed this enlightenment and the compassion for their men that surely comes with it. Clearly, a must read!”
—Dr. Robert Lewis, founder of Men’s Fraternity and producer of Marriage Oneness

“This is a book that all husbands should want their wives to read. Through a Man’s Eyes takes women on a journey into the minds of men, and shows them how even nice guys struggle with the onslaught of visual temptation they face every day. Thankfully, it also shows women how to be compassionate, wise, and encouraging in dealing with this aspect of their husband’s life.”
—Mark and Susan Merrill, Founders of Family First, All Pro Dad, and iMOM

About Shaunti Feldhahn

Social researcher and international speaker Shaunti Feldhahn is the author of many groundbreaking books, including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Male Factor, The Good News About Marriage, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and The Kindness Challenge. In total, Shuanti's books have sold more than two million copies in twenty-four languages.

Shaunti earned her master’s degree at Harvard University and worked on Wall Street and Capitol Hill before developing an innovative research method to deliver insights about personal and work relationships that most people miss. Shaunti’s findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The New York Times and Patheos, Cosmo and iMom.

Shaunti’s husband Jeff is the founder of World2One, a disruptive pro-privacy marketing technology. The Feldhahns live in Atlanta with their teenage daughter and son, and two cats who think they are dogs.

Product Details

192 pages | Published by Multnomah

On Sale Date: Jul 21, 2015

Trim Size: 5-3/16 x 8

Carton Quantity: 24

Sneak Peek

What Happens When Women See What Men See?

Click here to download chapter one of  Through a Man's Eyes.

You already know that your husband, boyfriend, or son is wired differently from you, but do you know what that really means? It means, among other things, that he’s been given the gift of a unique visual wiring—and the challenges that come with it.

In Through a Man’s Eyes, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross team up to help open our eyes to something we are often blind to. They address questions like:

  • “Why are guys so visual—and what does that mean, anyway?”
  • “How do I help my son navigate this sex-crazed culture?”
  • “How dare someone tell a woman to watch what she wears! Isn’t it a man’s responsibility not to look?”
  • “If he’s tempted by visual images, is there something wrong with him? With me?”
  • “My husband is an honorable guy, so why would he be tempted by porn?”
  • “How can I talk to my husband or son about this? What can I do to support him?”

Through the compassion and candor in this book, we can learn what men have long wished we knew (but didn’t know how to explain)—and see the difference it makes when we do!

 

 

 

  

 

 

 

 

By Rebekka Drago

As a Christian woman, I seek to live my life the way God would have me live it - with grace, humility, and modesty.  I don't always accomplish that, but its my goal.  And one woman who has made it her mission to help women with the difficult task of modesty is Shaunti Feldhahn.  Together with Craig Gross, she's written a wonderful book on the subject, called "Through A Man's Eyes.""Through A Man's Eyes" explores the effects of visual stimuli...

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By Rachel DeVaughn

First, I really like that this book was co-authored by a man and a wowman. Second, they are both qualified professionals so I knew I was going to get solid advice and opinions.This book explains the visual nature of men and the struggle of visual temptation on a daily basis at the workplace, out running errands-everywhere!The first part of the book focuses on a mans brain and how visual stimulation works which was really interesting to read....

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By Jenni Button

Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross partner up to bring women what they want: an inside scoop on what men are thinking. Feldhahn and Gross talk about what goes on in a man's mind and why he is so visual. They cover a variety of topics and do not shy away from tough ones. They include how to address porn and masturbation. They are quick to let you know it is not uncommon to get professional help for relationship problems based on problems like...

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By Jay Mayo

The way men and women view things is completely different. Many women are aware of these differences, but often do not understand them. To truly understand why men do many of the things they do, women must learn how to view life from a manâ??s perspective. Thankfully, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross have made this possible, in their book Through a Manâ??s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men. If you have ever...

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By SARAH MCGRAW

I consider this a continuation of Shaunti's book "For Women Only".  We get a candid yet gentle approach to the mindset of men and how they think concerning women.  I appreciated the discussion on how to handle our fears and worries as women who feel insecure knowing what men are thinking and feeling about images and other women they see.  This book had me feeling not hopeless and despaired with that information, but confident and able to have...

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