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About How We Love

Did you know the last fight you had with your spouse began long before you even met?
 
Are you tired of falling into frustrating relational patterns in your marriage? Do you and your spouse fight about the same things again and again?
 
Relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the powerful tool of attachment theory, Milan and Kay explore how your childhood created an “intimacy imprint” that affects your marriage today. Their stories and practical ideas help you:

* identify your personal love style
* understand how your early life impacts you and your spouse
* break free from painful patterns that keep you stuck
* find healing for the source of conflict, not just the symptoms
* create the close, nourishing relationship you dream about

Revised throughout with all-new material, additional visual diagrams, and a revised accompanying workbook, this expanded edition of How We Love will bring vibrant life to your marriage. Are you ready for a new journey of love?

Praise

Praise for How We Love

How We Love has the capacity to change not only your marriage but every relationship that’s important in your life.”
–Josh McDowell, Christian apologist, evangelist, and author of more than seventy-five books including More Than a Carpenter and Evidence that Demands a Verdict

“The authors have translated the complexity of how we love into a highly readable and clearly written book. Couples will easily be able to identify their love styles and how to transform them into genuine love. I recommend it to all couples.”
–Harville Hendrix, PHD, therapist and educator with over twenty-five years of experience, cofounder and president of the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy, and author of Getting the Love You Want

“Milan and Kay bring us a fresh look at intimacy and how we learn to love. Their practical and personal approach will enrich anyone’s marriage.”
–Daivd Stoop, PHD, psychologist and author of When Couples Pray Together

“I found How We Love to be extremely enlightening: a discovery of how best to love my wife, how to nurture her through a better understanding of our love styles, and how to implement change.”
–Phil Waugh, executive director of Covenant Marriage Movement

“I have had the joy and privilege of working with Milan and Kay on a professional level and have been amazed at the success of their therapeutic techniques. Understanding our love styles and taking down the walls created by our imprints are skills that can help every marriage. I am thrilled that more couples will learn how to strengthen their relationships through the tools described in this book.”
–Dr. Elizabeth John, MD, psychiatrist

“Milan and Kay have taken their own life experience, their research over the years, and their experience in the counseling office, and distilled it into a work that is rigorous, original, and understandable. If you want to strengthen and enrich your marriage, as well as grow personally, I strongly encourage you to read and digest this material. The effect on all your relationships will be powerful.”
–Dr. Jim Masteller, executive director of the Center for Individual and Family Therapy

“Through Milan and Kay’s candid stories you will learn your own love style, find how to connect more deeply with your spouse, and ultimately realize who you were meant to be at the core of your being.”
–Greg Campbell, retired business executive

“Forget everything external you think defines you. The quality of your relationships and your contributions to them are what make life great or miserable. This book is a key to a world of insight into intimacy only you can bring to your relationships. With each page, I felt Milan and Kay had seen my movie! My marriage is different today because of the simple, profound help I discovered in these pages.”
–Kenny Luck, author of Risk and Every Man, God’s Man, men’s pastor at Saddleback Church, and founder of Every Man Ministries

“The Yerkoviches have taken important developmental and psychological concepts and given them to us in a user-friendly fashion. They give us a peek into their personal journey and the countless people they have helped move from young hurts toward more meaningful intimate attachment. How We Love helps us see ourselves more clearly and understand our roles in the impasses of our relationships.…A practical and impactful read for all!”
–Jill Hubbard, PHD, clinical psychologist, cohost of New Life Live! national radio program, speaker, and full-time mom

“I am excited that Milan and Kay have given us the guiding principles of a successful marriage. With candor and uncommon insight they have demystified the issues in relationships that cause so many couples to get stuck. This book will get the wheels rolling and provide a destination filled with hope, healing, and fulfillment.”
–Dr. Mick Ukeja, president of LeadershipTraq and chair of the Governing Council of the Ukleja Center for Ethical Leadership

About Milan Yerkovich

Milan and Kay Yerkovich are parents of four grown childrenMilan is a pastoral counselor and co-host of the radio show, New Life Live! with Stephen Arterburn. Milan has a master’s degree in biblical studies and is the founder of Relationship 180, a ministry that helps leaders build healthy relationships. Kay has a master’s in counseling and has specialized in successful bonding between couples, parents, and children for 20 years. Their website, where they provide resources in these areas, is www.howwelove.com. When they aren’t traveling to speak, the Yerkovichs enjoy their four grandchildren.

About Kay Yerkovich

Milan and Kay Yerkovich are parents of four grown childrenMilan is a pastoral counselor and co-host of the radio show, New Life Live! with Stephen Arterburn. Milan has a master’s degree in biblical studies and is the founder of Relationship 180, a ministry that helps leaders build healthy relationships. Kay has a master’s in counseling and has specialized in successful bonding between couples, parents, and children for 20 years. Their website, where they provide resources in these areas, is www.howwelove.com. When they aren’t traveling to speak, the Yerkovichs enjoy their four grandchildren.

Product Details

352 pages | Published by WaterBrook

On Sale Date: Jul 11, 2017

Trim Size: 6 x 9

Carton Quantity: 24

Sneak Peek

Click Here to download the first chapter of How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich 

About How We Love

Did you know the last fight you had with your spouse began long before you even met? Are you tired of falling into frustrating relational patterns in your marriage? Do you and your spouse fight about the same things again and again? Relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the powerful tool of attachment theory, Milan and Kay explore how your childhood created an “intimacy imprint” that affects your marriage today. Their stories and practical ideas help you: * identify your personal love style * understand how your early life impacts you and your spouse * break free from painful patterns that keep you stuck * find healing for the source of conflict, not just the symptoms * create the close, nourishing relationship you dream about Revised throughout with all-new material, additional visual diagrams, and a revised accompanying workbook, this expanded edition of How We Love will bring vibrant life to your marriage. Are you ready for a new journey of love?

By David Wenell

In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich look into relational patterns that happen in marriages. They address how we learn patterns of relating to others long before we are married. Drawing on attachment theory, the Yerkoviches share five love styles that are predominant among married couples. These styles form painful patterns that keep us stuck in harmful dances with each other, especially in conflict. After looking at...

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By Randi Schmid

Several years ago I wrote a book review on "How We Love Our Kids" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. I learned that I had a vacillator love style in my parenting - meaning I vacillated (kind of like an oscillating fan) between wanting to be a really involved mom which lead to me being sort of overwhelmed and then I would back way off, almost isolating myself into myself.I've worked really hard to push past my natural tendency to pull away from my...

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By Claudia Romero

This book talks alot about how you develop your way to love at a young age. Are you used to tough love? Love that is easy, love that is hard. This book will help you learn what your love style is, why you love how you do. If you feel like some things are hard this will open the door to find out why. Use it to not just help your marriage but all your relationships. 

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By Suzie Meinke

This book will help most couples find and identify areas of your relationship that need attention to work on.I found it very enlightening.  I would highly recommend to any couple that's struggling to communicate.  This is a book that I think every married couple should own.

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By Chimere Bray

I have come to a point in my life, which usual everyone comes to, some sooner than others, where I am finally in a place where I can fully invest myself in a monogamous relationship. I was intrigued by How We Love because I wondered if it was similar to another book I read about love languages. Although the book seems to be written specifically for married couples, after reading the book I came to the conclusion that this book...

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