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About Love and War

With astonishing vulnerability that engages readers from the first page, John and Stasi Eldredge openly discuss their own marriage and the breakthroughs they have won from the challenges they’ve faced. Each talks to the reader about what he and she have learned, providing a balance between male and female perspectives that has been absent from previous books on this topic.
 
John and Stasi begin Love & War with an obvious confession: Marriage is fabulously hard. But beneath and behind the inevitable tensions a man and woman “locked in the same submarine” are going to have, the real battle is against the work of the Enemy, who plots and schemes to tear love apart. The Eldredges show how couples can win “by fighting for each other, instead of against each other.” As they say, “We live in a great love story, set in the midst of war.”

“This is a book of wisdom and hope…a beautiful labor that will move your marriage to far deeper joy.” Dan. B. Allender, author of The Wounded Heart

Praise

Love & War: Finding the Marriage You’ve Dreamed Of

The Eldredges’ newest book has bestseller written all over it. The pair addressed men and women separately in Wild at Heart (John) and Captivating (Stasi) and now put that knowledge together in a book on marriage. Christianity, they say, is a love story set amid war, with marriage “a living, breathing portrait laid out before the eyes of the world so that they might see the story of the ages.”

For them, marriage is the perfect storm that brings together basic differences in men and women, individual styles of relating, sin, and brokenness. The Eldredges offer sound advice on topics such as the delights of companionship, understanding the enemy is Satan and not your spouse, finding your marriage’s mission, taboo topics, and, yes, sex. They are honest and forthright, never skirting a difficult issue; instead, they offer hope, insight, and their own lives as examples of what God can accomplish. Their summation of marriage: “It can be done. And it is worth it.” So is this book. 
--Publishers Weekly, Starred Review

“John and Stasi nailed it. This book opens to an untouched snapshot of a real, live redeemed marriage and closes with hope and hunger for our own. These two have proved again and again that they’re willing to put themselves out there for somebody else’s sake. Is it any wonder God uses them like He does? The moment we decide to throw more energy into fighting for our mate than with him, the crack of a fist on the enemy’s jaw splits the ears of angels.”
—Beth Moore
Author of Get Out of That Pit and Breaking Free


“John and Stasi Eldredge lead us into the heart of marriage...not as we always dreamed it would be, but as it really is... a relationship between two flawed individuals who are discovering together that marriage is difficult.  Their willingness to speak honestly about their relationship proves their point... that “loving costs everything but loving is always worth it.”  If you are willing to fight for the love and happiness God intended your marriage to provide, every chapter of Love & War will cheer you on!”
—Dr. David Jeremiah
Senior Pastor, Shadow Mountain Community Church
Founder & CEO, Turning Point
 
“I need help to grow as a husband.  I have written a few books on marriage, but I am never done reading, reflecting or wrestling with the issues that keep my marriage from being sweeter and deeper.  John and Stasi offer a courageous, honest, and compelling picture of what is involved in growing beyond one’s initial commitment and desire for intimacy.  This is a book of wisdom and hope for those who want more than mere complacency or convenience.  It is a beautiful labor that will move your marriage to far deeper joy.” 
—Dan B. Allender
Professor of Counseling Psychology, Mars Hill Graduate School
Author, Intimate Allies and To Be Told


From the Hardcover edition.

About John Eldredge

John Eldredge is the founder and director of Ransomed Heart Ministries in Colorado Springs, Colorado, a fellowship devoted to helping people discover the heart of God. John is the author of numerous books, including Wild at Heart, Waking the Dead, Desire and Epic, and the coauthor of Captivating and The Sacred Romance. He and his wife, Stasi, have three fabulous sons.

About Stasi Eldredge

Stasi Eldredge is the coauthor of Captivating and the Sacred Romance; she leads the women's events of Ransomed Heart Ministries in Colorado Springs, Colorado, a fellowship devoted to helping people discover the heart of God. Stasi longs to see lives transformed by the love of Jesus and the beauty of the Gospel. Stasi and her husband, John, have three fabulous sons.

Product Details

240 pages | Published by WaterBrook

On Sale Date: May 17, 2011

Trim Size: 5-1/2 x 8-1/4

Carton Quantity: 24

Sneak Peek

Marriage is fabulously hard.

 Click here to download chapter one of Love and War.

With astonishing vulnerability that engages readers from the first page, John and Stasi Eldredge openly discuss their own marriage and the breakthroughs they have won from the challenges they’ve faced.

Click here to download chapter one of Love and War.

By Cecelia Miller

John and Stasi Eldredge have written a winner in the book Love and War. I was blessed to receive 2 copies from Blogging for Books so my husband read one as well. I have taken a long time to write this review but I want everyone to know what a great book this is. It is a must read for couples. They put their lives out there and let people see into their marriage. It addresses issues that you would not realize occur in marriage. It also...

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By Elizabeth Harris

I read John & Staci Eldredge's marriage book. First of all, I didn't agree with every sentence they said, but I do agree with the big points. Also it took me a while to get out of my cynical self and jump into their larger than life world (which is also explored in Wild at Heart & Captivating) of danger and romance and beauty. The couple team wrote this book and tell stories and thoughts both in the first person. Their biggest advice in...

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By Stefanie C

I admit to avoiding marriage books. It's not that I don't think that I have plenty to learn, but most I've stumbled across feel more like textbooks written by people who aren't really real. They feel superficial and inauthentic. Not so with Love & War: Find Your Way to Something Beautiful in Your Marriage by John and Stasi Eldredge--it's the real deal. With striking and admirable honesty, they share from their marriage--the sin, hardship,...

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By Sarah Scales

Warning This is not just a easy read that nicely skims over the difficulties in marriage. No, this is a book that challenges you to break free, give & accept forgiveness, be transformed, live a life of love, and grow closer to God - all in the context of marriage. Here's a great quote from the book that seem to sum it up beautifully.... "Being married costs everything. Tears... Incredible vulnerability and sacrifice. It causes you to take...

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By Justine Hostetler

Marriage is fabulously hard - states John and Stasi Eldredge as the beginning point for their book, "Love and War." The book is a window into the struggles they have experienced in their own marriage, and the lessons they've learned as well as the triumphs they've enjoyed. Each participates in writing and shares from their experiences, providing a balance between male and female perspectives that is unique from many marriage books. As one...

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