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About Cleaning House

Is Your Home Out of Order?
Do your kids expect clean folded clothes to magically appear in their drawers? Do they roll their eyes when you suggest they clean the bathroom? By racing in to make their lives easy, have you unintentionally reinforced your children’s belief that the world revolves around them?
Dismayed at the attitude of entitlement that had crept into her home, Kay Wyma got some attitude of her own. Cleaning House is her account of a year-long campaign to introduce her five kids to basic life skills and the ways meaningful work can increase earned self-confidence and concern for others.
With irresistible humor and refreshing insights, Kay candidly details the ups and downs of equipping her kids for such tasks as making beds, refinishing a deck chair, and working together. The changes that take place in her household will inspire you to launch your own campaign to dislodge your kids from the center of their universe.
“If you want your children to be more responsible, more self-assured, and more empathetic, Cleaning House is for you.”
—Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family


Praise for Cleaning House

“At last! Enlightenment about entitlement in our kids—and not just what it is, but also what to do about it.”
—Elisa Morgan, author of She Did What She Could, president emerita of MOPS International, and publisher of FullFill

“Parents, take note: Kay Wills Wyma’s experiment could change your life, especially if your kids suffer from ‘me first!’ syndrome. If you want your children to be more responsible, more self-assured, and more empathetic, Cleaning House is for you.”
—Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family

Cleaning House is both a beautifully told story and a practical guide to parenting in today’s complex world.”
—Michael Gurian, best-selling author of The Wonder of Boys and The Wonder of Girls

Cleaning House will be one of the most influential parenting books of our generation. When it comes to directing parents how to raise fabulous kids, Kay Wills Wyma nails it.”
—Meg Meeker, MD, author of the national bestseller Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

Cleaning House offers the perfect solution for parents who want to free their children from the entitlement trap. Hilarious stories, amazing creativity, and a huge dose of grace make this book difficult to put down! Kay Wills Wyma paves the way and offers tools to help our families experience the satisfaction and confidence that comes through meaningful work.”
—Sandra Stanley, North Point Ministries

Cleaning House delivers practical advice, helpful encouragement, and laugh-out-loud moments for weary parents who want to lovingly change the hearts and future of their overly indulged children.”
—Chuck Bentley, CEO of Crown Financial Ministries and author of The Root of Riches

“For parents who are weary of the Me generation, [Cleaning House] provides a practical roadmap…to bring your children from entitlement to empowerment. From the day-to-day aspects of training in practical-life skills to issues of the heart such as service with a smile and hospitality, Kay writes with transparency, humor, and wisdom. As a parent, grandparent, and school principal, I believe this book will become a favorite of parents and one they will reference frequently.”
—Jody Capehart, co-author of Bonding with Your Teens Through Boundaries

“In an age of youth entitlement, this is a must-read for moms who desire to raise godly kids with servant hearts! Kay Wills Wyma understands and communicates on this vital issue like no one on earth!”
—Joe White, president of Kanakuk Kamps

“In Cleaning House, Kay Wills Wyma has crafted a book that hits home on many levels. It’s a case study for any parent who wants to change the entitlement culture among their kids. But at a deeper level, it hits each of us who long to live our daily lives in a way that pleases God.”
—Ronald L. Harris, senior vice president of the National Religious Broadcasters

“Reading this book will inspire hope, despair, and then more hope: hope that we can get our kids to do more chores, then despair that no, maybe only Kay can do it (she had a book contract!), then hope again—because Kay shows us, step by baby step, how to make it happen, in the real world, with real kids.”
—Lenore Skenazy, author of the book and blog Free-Range Kids

“With unique creativity and wry humor, this sensible, determined mom herds her five distinctly different offspring into an acute lifestyle change; namely, learning to master the inevitable demands of life.… With ‘a spoonful of sugar,’ Cleaning House cools the dangerous ‘me first’ fever weakening our American culture.”
—Dr. Howard G. Hendricks, distinguished professor emeritus of leadership and Christian education, Dallas Theological Seminary, and Jeanne Hendricks, speaker and author of A Mother’s Legacy

“Here’s a book that is designed to help parents get their kids a one-way ticket to reality about responsibility, but I was thinking it would be great to get voters to read it and apply these simple, but brilliant principles to members of Congress!”
--Mike Huckabee, former Arkansas Governor and host of Fox TV's Huckabee  and radio's Mike Huckabee Show

About Kay Wills Wyma

Kay Wills Wyma has five kids, ages four to fourteen, and one SUV with a lot of carpool miles. She holds a bachelor's from Baylor University and an MIM from the American Graduate School of International Management (Thunderbird). Before transitioning to stay-at-home mom, she held positions at the White House, the Staubach Company, and Bank of America. She and her husband, Jon, live with their family in the Dallas area.

Product Details

288 pages | Published by WaterBrook

On Sale Date: May 8, 2012

Trim Size: 5-3/16 x 8

Carton Quantity: 24

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What Would Your Life be Like if Anything Were Possible?

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When Kay Wyma realized that an attitude of entitlement had crept into her home, this mother of five got some attitude of her own. Cleaning House is her account of a year-long campaign to introduce her kids to basic life skills. From making beds to grocery shopping to refinishing a deck chair, the Wyma family experienced for themselves the ways meaningful work can transform self-absorption into earned self-confidence and concern for others.

Click here to download the first chapter of Cleaning House now.

By Shelley Townsend

This book was about a mother who decided to do a 12 month experiment (for lack of a better word) in order to teach her children to be more self sufficent and stop feeling like they were owed everything. My favorite week was when each child had to purchase and cook dinner, I loved how one of the children just chose to purchase fast food while others really got into the planning of the whole thing. I have even used some of the ideas in the book...

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By Debbie McMullen

I read this book with an open mind because I honestly have kids who help. My son did smaller chores when he was younger, and now dies the dishes, his laundry and helps me around the house cleaning and with watching his sisters all day. The girls are young - 3 and 9 months, but my 3 year old helps me put clothes in the wash, sweep with her mini broom, puts away utensils and tidys up her toys. Cleaning House interested me however just because...

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By Jodi Trinklein

I was excited to have the opportunity to read Cleaning House; A Mom's 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement, as I can relate to the author as a fellow stay-at-home mom of five. The work involved in maintaining a home of seven and all that it holds can be daunting, especially if it all falls on one person. As I scrolled through the pages on my Kindle I was open to any bits of wisdom Kay Wills Wyma could offer. The book is...

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By Deborah Griffin

My kids aren't like some I hear about. Kids who are constantly wanting, wanting and wanting some more. Kids who think money grows on trees. I feel blessed that mine know the value of work and money. This being said....I still had things to learn! The concepts in this book are so simple and really work! It's nice having a team working on things around the house and knowing that we are equipping our children to know how to do things when...

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By Michele Aguilar

"A Mom's 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement" After reading this book by Kay Wills Wyma, I have discovered we are on the right track with our child rearing. People would say to me things like, "And I thought we were hard on our kids." I took that as a compliment at times, and then when I was alone in my house while everyone else was sleeping, I would think I'm a big meanie! I chose this book to review because Elisa Morgan...

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