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About Tender Warrior

Leader. Protector. Friend. Lover.

God made you to be each of these…and much more. Stu Weber ’s bestseller, now revised throughout and refreshed with an attractive new look, paints a dramatic and compelling picture of balanced manhood according to God’s vision. Written in a warm, personal style, Weber presents the characteristics of tender warriors—including learning to speak the language of women, watching out for what lies ahead, and keeping commitments—in an upfront, straightforward style that challenges readers to realize God’s plan for men.

More than 365,000 copies sold!

Some Things Are Worth Fighting For

Young men aspire to it. Women admire it. Yet the definition of manhood itself is obscured by a culture in moral free fall. This book cuts through the fog and defines a powerful blueprint for being the man—the Tender Warrior—that God desires for you and your family. You’ll discover that a Tender Warrior:

   • watches out for what lies ahead—like a wagon train scout;
   • keeps his commitments, no matter how painful;
   • has a tender heart beating beneath his armor;
   • understands his responsibility to his wife, children, and friends;
   • recognizes that he is “under orders from higher headquarters.”

Stu Weber ’s now classic teaching on a man’s vigilance, staying power, and consideration for the women in his life will move you to pursue the man you were created to be.

Real Men Are Tender Warriors

“I drank Budweiser, smoked Marlboros, and chased women…. Tender Warrior sent me deeper into my heart and soul. When I finished it, I passed it on to a friend, who was supposed to give it back but passed it on to someone else. This book changed his life. It knocked down the walls around his heart. His response: ‘The most important thing that has happened in my life started when you sent me that book.’”
—A reader

Praise for Tender Warrior

Tender Warrior provides hope for men by challenging their assumptions and shaping their convictions. Read it. Devour it. Then live it. This is the time for real men to emerge.”
—Dennis Rainey, executive director, FamilyLife

“In a day when our culture is at once confused and concerned over gender identity, men everywhere would to do well to recalibrate their personal compasses by the biblical benchmarks found in Tender Warrior . I highly recommend this book!”
—Dr. Bruce Wilkinson , New York Times bestselling author

About Stu Weber

Stu Weber is senior pastor of Good Shepherd Community Church near Gresham, Oregon. He is a much-in-demand international speaker and the author of the popular Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart, All the King’s Men, and Along the Road to Manhood. He and his wife, Linda, have three children, Kent, Blake, and Ryan.

Product Details

288 pages | Published by Multnomah

On Sale Date: Apr 15, 2006

Trim Size: 6 x 9

Carton Quantity: 24

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Young men aspire to it. Women admire it. Yet the definition of manhood itself is obscured by a culture in moral free fall. This book cuts through the fog and defines a powerful blueprint for being the man—the Tender Warrior—that God desires for you and your family.

Written in a warm, personal style, Weber presents the characteristics of tender warriors—including learning to speak the language of women, watching out for what lies ahead, and keeping commitments—in an upfront, straightforward style that challenges readers to realize God’s plan for men.

Click here to download the first chapter of Tender Warrior now.

By Denise Mattox

I requested Tender Warrior by Stu Webber for my husband to read and give me his feedback. This was pretty much forever ago, as life got busy and he never got a chance to read it. It got shelved and (to be completely honest) forgotten about. Until I ran into the Blogging for Books twitter feed and was reminded I had the book lying around. Time to drag it out and read it myself!"Every man's purpose. Every woman's dream. Every child's hope."This...

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By Chris Aiken

Tender Warrior is another great read by Stu Weber. (OK, transparency here...I really like Stu Weber). This book, like many of his works speaks of the warrior ethos...the man code...the need for men to take their rightful and created roles seriously as the leaders of their homes, communities, and churches. Weber shares wisdom here...using imagery and stories that connect with men. For too long, the culture has defined "church" or "faith issues" in a...

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By Doug Hibbard

Here is the hinge of Stu Weber's book: it is not only possible but appropriate that Christian men be both compassionate and strong. The possibility of doing so is based in the power of God. The appropriateness is found in following the example of Christ, because we see both attitudes in fullness in Him. Weber's work is peppered with anecdotes and explanations, and has aged fairly well since I read it in the mid-90s. A few of the life...

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By Joshua Lake

"He is an initiator and she is a responder. That's masculinity and femininity in the proverbial nutshell" (128). I start with that, because so many readers evaluate books solely upon whether the author's view of gender roles agrees with theirs. If you believe in firm roles for men and women, husbands and wives, you will appreciate this book's message. Complementarianism is written on every page. Stu Weber wrote this book to paint a...

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By Scott Volltrauer

In 1990 Jungian psychologist Robert Moore and co-author Douglas Gillette wrote King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine. Moore and Gillette referred to four blueprints, in Stu Weber's Tender Warrior: Every Man's Purpose, Every Woman's Dream, Every Child's Hope he calls them fingerprints. All the authors argue that in order to become a complete man, a man must be intentional in his efforts to...

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